Bring in the New Year with REAL love and intimacy!
It’s that time of year when you are getting ready to share with your loved ones. Imagine next year having that special one to be a part of your life and all that you wished for in the relationship.
The big question is, what’s the best way to get it? I speak to hundreds of singles who are looking for help with dating and looking for love. Sometimes love comes in all different shapes and sizes and sometimes it’s disguised as love.
Imagine unwrapping the most beautiful Christmas gift, only to find that old bar of soap that you were bought last year, how would you feel? Cheated, disappointed? That’s why I don’t want you to be disappointed, instead, I want you to open the beautiful gift and inside see the best present you ever hoped for. The only catch is that you have to put the right energy into finding it and yes I am talking about love and intimacy.
To create true love and intimacy you have to nurture that special energy that is between a man and a woman. When people rush into bed with a partner they are often unwrapping that beautiful shiny present, to be left the next day feeling like they were given the bar of soap. Why is this so? This is because love, like any other gift, has to be earnt for it to be lasting and appreciated.
So why is it so hard to resist the temptation? That gorgeous piece of chocolate cake crying out to be eaten? The hunky guy or super fit girl that is luring you into bed? This is our ego, which wants immediate gratification. We are given the challenge of the ego as a way of working on ourselves to get the lasting love and intimacy that we crave. When you start to tame your ego you will find a wealth of fulfilment that lasts much longer than chocolate or sex.
In our very modern world we want instant gratification and then we wonder why it does not last, why are we running on to the next conquest and never quite satisfied with what we have? Online dating can be used to source out some great partners who could be a real presence of joy in your life. Yet if you use it as a sweet shop and rush the dating process, you may get stuck at the till, rather than getting to experience the full worth and value of the goodies.
Having worked with thousands of people who rush in too quickly and then come to me when it goes wrong, I can only advise you to take your time in finding love and intimacy.
Get to know the REAL person in the dress or suit and make sure they get to know who YOU really are too! Otherwise, the credits will role, and you will be left thinking, what was that really all about?
If you want to make sure you are not short-changing yourself in love then invest time to value yourself and the person in front of you. After all isn’t self-esteem and true self-expression one of the best gifts you can give yourself this Christmas?