Why do you not have exactly what you want?! Read my blog and change your fortune…

Most of us have a million excuses for we have not got what we want in life.  Run your story enough times and you will believe it, and do a good job of convincing others.

For as long as you keep repeating your story nothing changes, no growth, no new results and no taking responsivity for yourself.  We all have our stories and some of them have served us well!

‘I was fed to much as a child…”

“ I wasn’t loved”

“ I had too much love”

“No man or woman will ever measure up to…”

This is just the tip of the ice berg, there’s many more stories that we keep so that we can tell ourselves its ok that I have not taken action or responsibility for myself.

 Many of the best known thinkers talk about the power of meaning and that you are what you focus on. 

Whether you think you can or whether you think you can’t, you‘re right.” Self-confidence

is a powerful thing. When Henry Ford made this quote, he was saying just this.25 Feb 2013

What do you get by keeping your old story or complaint alive?

You get to be right

You get to be justified

You get to have an easy life/ i.e. no work on yourself to change your situation


Maintain the status quo

Avoid taking responsibility for yourself

What do you not get by keeping your old story alive?

You don’t make progress in your personal life

No growth

Stay stuck

Get to be frustrated and angry

Not living your full life to your full potential

Again, this is just the tip of the ice berg.

How do you move on from being a victim of your current ‘story’?

Challenge yourself!!

Ask yourself, is this really true? Do I still want these excuses holding me back.  Ask yourself the biggest question of all;

‘How old was I when I first created this story?

“How old am I now? “

‘Who am I without my story?”

“What am I here for?”

What am I capable of?

These are questions to be answered by you in your own time, when you are ready to develop and become who you were meant to be, in all areas of your life.

Work with a coach, work with a friend or even on your own, but if you want something that you currently don’t have, you need to do the work.

For one to one coaching please contact me for an initial conversation

With love and support

Personal Development Coach and Relationship Expert

UK’s leading Dating Coach

Jo Barnett