From Swiping to Showing Up: Be the Difference You Want to See

Dating apps promised us easy connections, so why do so many people feel stuck in a loop: endless swipes, half-hearted chats, and no real dates. If this feels familiar, it’s time to change the approach.

The shift is simple but powerful: stop swiping, start showing up – it’s contagious.

Why Swiping Isn’t Working

Swiping feels like you are doing something, but it often keeps us in the ‘pen-pal stage’. Profiles can’t show chemistry. Text messages can’t replace eye contact. And ghosting has become the norm. It’s no wonder so many people feel frustrated and disconnected.

What It Means to Show Up

Showing up is about taking a positive action in real life:

• Saying yes to events, meetups, or friend introductions.
• Suggesting coffee instead of dragging out the chat.
• Meeting people through hobbies, community groups, or even daily life.

When you show up, you give connection a chance to become real.

Be the Difference You Want to See

If you want honesty, lead with it. If you’re tired of ghosting, don’t ghost. If you want real effort, put in real effort. The energy you bring sets the tone for the connection you’ll attract.

Focus on Follow-Through

One of the biggest blocks in dating today is not the apps it’s the lack of follow-through. Matches don’t mean much if they don’t turn into meet ups and phone chats.  Don’t wait. Suggest something simple, keep it casual, and let the connection unfold naturally.

Dating apps can open doors, but only showing up in person creates real possibilities. Stop waiting for the perfect swipe and start being present in the real world. Love is built through action, not swiping.

For more tips and your one-to-one dating action plan contact me today.

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